When we have children, our lives quickly become all about them. Our days are prioritized around their schedules and their needs. Our social media newsfeeds are now full of cute baby pics, and our posts share all the silly things our little ones did or said. Our conversations often filled with boasts and concerns about our children. All of this is wonderful and beautiful and at times necessary. But let’s be honest, it can get out of balance quickly. Before we know it, attending to our own needs is no longer a priority. Without realising it, we have stopped taking as good a care of ourselves, as we do our children.
When last when given the option to do something for your child or do something for yourself – did you choose you? Gasp! Yes, I just put it out there – the unspeakable.
I read an article recently on whattoexpect.com, that refers to how Flight Attendants give wonderful parenting advice. It reads:
“secure your oxygen mask first before assisting your kids with theirs. After all, if you can’t breathe, how can you possibly help anyone else? So give yourself a little air — get a pedicure, see a movie or go for a girls’ night out once a month. Keep in mind that loving yourself is one of the best ways to love your children.”
I just want to echo that last sentiment: Loving yourself, is one of the best ways to love your children.
So, guess what mama? It’s very important, to every now and then, choose yourself.
You take that bubble bath
You curl up on the sofa and watch that chick flick
You read a few pages of that novel
You sit quietly sipping your favourite glass of red
Whatever you do, make sure you take time – even if it is just a few moments in a week. Focus on that which helps you catch your breath. For me, it’s writing this encouragement (and sipping my G&T) while my husband puts our son down to sleep.
Don’t feel guilty. Don’t defer to a task on your to-do list. Don’t worry about the chores – because you know they will still be there tomorrow. Sigh.